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My wife and I were looking for a friendly, family oriented MMA classes for our son (10) and daughter (12). They love martial arts and have been doing it for years, in an after school program (TKD). Well, after looking around, we joined Gracie PAC MMA. Let me tell you, this place is perfect. Their staff and coaches are incredible; friendly, helpful, knowledgeable and experience on everything MMA. Professor Cris Rodriguez is great with kids, amazing teacher. We are extremely happy with Gracie MMA, their staff is great, they are very organize and their curriculum (bjj, muay thai, kick boxing, etc....) has everything we were looking for. Great place for the entire family.

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Come train with the BEST! This is NOT your normal after school karate class. We were amazed at the amount of technique even the youngest students pick up after just a few classes. Coach Cris is awesome with the kids. She expects more then just good fighting from them. She stays involved with how they are doing in school and at home, giving her students the incentive to be the best at everything they do.

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I have been looking for a great exercise program to get involved in and finally found it here. I have learned so much in the two months I have been here and can't wait to continue to get stronger. Love This place!! Coach Cris is the best at making me not want to give up.

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PAC MMA is fitness for the whole family. Kids programs, adult classes and even the best woman's fitness and self defense around, this is the place to go. Make your family a part of the PAC family.

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Best place ever! My daughter attends the after school program there and she loves it. I just started taking the kickboxing class & it's the best class I have ever taken. Everyone there is awesome.

Gina Lopez Fernandez reviewed Gracie PAC MMA
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I can't say enough about how much I love this place! My son is learning so much and he LOVES going to class. There's something so rewarding in watching your child learn and grow so quickly :) Coach Chris, Coach Dan and Coach Rich have all been amazing! I couldn't ask for a better environment for my son. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and so much of yourself - we truly appreciate it!

Erica Ramirez reviewed Gracie PAC MMA
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Heard thru word of mouth. Then checked it out and noticed great character in their students and the attentive staff. The coach had noticeable rapport with the kids in the class. My daughter loved it. She can't wait to get back. She even cleaned her room! Huge plus.

Dan Martinez reviewed Gracie PAC MMA
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Gracie PAC MMA has been one of, if not the best, mixed martial arts gym I have been a part of. The kids program/instruction is second to none, and offers world class BJJ instruction for adults as well as one of the most promising striking programs in the US, Bang Muay Thai. Countless kids and adults have competed at the highest level under the GPAC banner, with even more discovering what martial arts can do for them. Whether you want to compete or get in great shape, this facility has the program for you

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Our family has been coming to Gracie PAC Tampa for nearly two years. We began sending our son first. Our main goals were for him to experience the physical and mental benefits derived from regular physical exercise. Instantly we realized how special this place is, and how amazing Coach Cris is with the kids, as well as adults. She is fair but firm, and as she commands respect, she encourages these kids to rise to their full potential, also providing valuable discussions on character, sportsmanship, and leadership, as part of her curriculum.

My husband takes some of the adult jiu jitsu and kickboxing classes, from which he has benefitted greatly, and I truly enjoy being a member of the ladies' bootcamp group. These ladies represent a wide range of fitness levels and ages. Each class, we all get together to kick butt, do our best, and encourage each other in a true team environment. I never leave this class disappointed.
Gracie PAC Tampa MMA - best place EVER for your anyone in your family to train at.

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Well it's about time I write a review! My boys joined Gracie PAC as little Ninjas about 4 months ago. They absolutely love it! Professor Cris is an amazing teacher! She's very enthusiastic about teaching and she is very patient. My boys love going to class. They are 4 &7 . They never want to miss a class. They have learned so much and continue to learn with each class. They love earning strips on their belt. This is a really great positive atmosphere for kids and families. I'm very satisfied with our experience.

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I took Jiu Jitsu a few years back at another facility and decided to give this one a try. I took my first lesson last night and could not believe the content. Very structured and professional. Easy to learn and everyone was eager to assist me being the new guy. Other places teach you a couple of moves. Each involving many steps and you still won't understand it. Garcia PAC teaches you a technique and teaches you other techniques that involve some of the same steps. It made me confident that if I try something and am not able to secure the submission, then I can roll into another technique just as easy and It gives you options and makes you think. I liked that approach rather than what I was given in the past. A+ school and is 100% legit. I am confident this time around I will take it all the way with my training. When you find a place like this you take advantage of the opportunity to train there.

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We love it at Gracie PAC! They focus on fitness, strength, form, and most importantly they work hard every lesson to help teach my children how to effectively defend themselves against bullies and other attacks. It's easy to see this group of educators clearly loves kids and have a passion for sharing their vast knowledge with their students! Best MMA in the Bay for kids!

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I took my first class tonight. As soon as you enter, you are greeted by smiling faces who are just as excited to have you there as you are to be there. The coaches there were phenomenal. They were so incredibly encouraging and patient, it was a breeze picking it up because there was no pressure. Great job at creating such an inviting atmosphere.

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How To Show Up For Our Children

Parenting encapsulates so many different aspects of care when it comes to a child. We receive messages about paying attention to how children are doing in school, with friends, what they are eating, how much they are playing, how hard they are working, if they are reading enough, sleeping enough, getting outside enough and much, much more. And while all of this is important—what do you think is the most important thing that a parent can do to make the biggest difference in the long run? The research tells us, it’s all about showing up. In fact, studies show that the best predictors for how any child turns out in terms of happiness, academic success, leadership skills and strong relationships is whether at least one key adult in the life of a child has consistently and predictably shown up for them physical AND emotionally.

Important Messages:

  • Many parents are on one or the other end of the pendulum- either hyper-parenting or are distracted or 
  • checked out- what are kids need most from their parents is for us to show up. Be present.
  • How? Safe, seen, soothed.
  • How do we help kids feel safe? When we overprotect, we actually communicate to them that the world is a dangerous place and that they are vulnerable. This actually is the opposite of safe.
  • Safety: (1) Physically safe (i.e. safe around water, buckled into care seat) and (2) Not being the source of our child’s fear (i.e. abuse, neglect, and more mild ways- fighting with a significant other, unpredictable, screaming/yelling). Primary function of attachment. Afraid or hurt- go to attachment figure. Problematic when your attachment figure is the source of your fear. If a problem, reach out for help.
  • BUT- if we yell at our kids, we can repair. Build’s resilience IF you make a repair. “My anger really got the best of me, I wish I handled that differently. I shouldn’t have taken it out on you. You don’t deserve that. I’m really sorry.” Kids learn that relationships are messy. Sometimes we treat each other in ways that are not ok AND we get through it. We come together. If you are always lovely, the world would be a scary place because kids wouldn’t learn how to cope!
  • Safety is about communicating to our children that we trust that they can handle something- and when they can’t, we will walk with them through it.
  • Be predictable. Boundary setting. Not permissive. When kid is devastating. “This is really hard. This was really disappointing and I’m right here with you as you feel disappointed.”
  • Reactive behavior- don’t want us to do this. Embarrassed, and feel that they’ll be treated differently. Time to advocate sometimes- but often not time to do vigilantly justice. Doesn’t help kids feel safe. Instead. Script: “That must have really hurt your feelings. How do you feel about that? How are you going to be a problem-solver? I can help you come up with some ideas.” Don’t be a bulldozer.
  • Seen: We may have experienced growing up “being seen and not heard” and have to create a new normal. Wanting kids to achieve- can blind us to who are children really are.
  • Look with more than your eyes. Mindsight. See your mind in the mind of others. Make sense- be curious about what your child’s experience of a particular situation.
  • Example: Doesn’t want to get in or out of the bath. Meltdown. If you just look at behavior and not really “seeing” your child, you might say; “I’m not really sure what you’re so upset about. You were mad about getting in and now your mad about getting out? You’ve got to get out of the bath tub right now. I don’t want to hear it! It’s time for bed!” Instead. Seen: “I see that you are really bummed about bath time being over. You are really having fun and you don’t want bath time to be over, is that right? You are so disappointed (not that you are saying it’s ok to stay in). “I need you to get out or I’ll help you get out.” It’s about tuning in.
  • Biggest mistakes as a parent: We assume a bad behavior is CHOSEN.
  • Example: child making strange faces when someone tried to take a photo. What is this all about? Still doing it even though he gets into trouble. Self conscious kid. He was embarrassed. This is how he dealt with embarrassment.
  • Example: Tina’s husband called her- youngest child locked self in bathroom because not getting popcorn at movies. Get curious. “Are you feeling disappointed because you thought you could get popcorn? Hard to feel disappointed. But we can still have fun at the movies.” Try to make sense of what’s going on BEFORE you respond.
  • Celebrate child for who they are.
  • Use intuition. Put yourself in this position- look at full picture. It’s their experience! Tune in to their experience even if it seems ridiculous. Build circuitry of their brain. What we give attention to gets built in the brain.
  • What if your child is really different from you? Different sensory preferences? Loud/soft? Bicycle vs ferari.
  • Ask yourself: Who is this kid and how can I give him a response that allows them to, later in life, look back and say, ‘my parents totally got me.’ That they let me be who I am and never made me feel that I should pretend to be something I wasn’t.
  • “Feeling felt.” Celebrated for who I am. How give attention to my children.
  • Do you check out? Or, put parameters. “I don’t have a lot of time but what you are saying to me is important to me so what do you really want me to know?” Responding but not stopping the world, when you can’t. Join attention with child. Just by giving attention to what they are giving attention to—creates intimacy- makes them feel felt. Feel seen.
  • Be aware of yourself- understand where you are coming from and who you are- and understanding that your child may be different from you- giving attention to them for who they are but putting parameters over it because you are honoring who you are.
  • Soothe: providing help, comfort for your child. The way we instinctively respond when our child is physically hurt, we want to respond the same way when our child is hurting emotionally.
  • When feelings get big- stressful- feel out of control and not safe- if we provide comfort and connection first, then they can move back to soothed place and then can respond better.
  • Bath incident: “If you need to cry or yell for a little bit, you can do that, and I’m right here with you.” Part of soothing is just being present.
  • When you are about to fall apart or your child is falling apart, get below their eye level. Say 2 things. (1) Empathy/Seen:- you are really mad at me right now or you are really sad about something. (2) Security: “I’m right here with you.”
  • Story: Picture for Mom and didn’t want to put it away. Teacher didn’t regulate self. “This picture looks really 
  • important to you, where should we put it so it’s safe and you have time to work on it later after we come in from recess.” “You are so disappointed! I will help you. I will help you to go outside.” There still may be moments when you have to take the crayon and the paper. You can’t have a reflective dialogue in every everyday moment. Don’t join the chaos. Sometimes you just need to leave. “Aw, you really were having fun. You are really disappointed we have to leave.” And then go. They feel seen.
  • Tune in. Your child may be falling apart but YOU don’t have to fall apart.
  • Research is clear- when we help kids to come back to the calm state when upset, integrated brain, their brain gets practice. Promotes independence.
  • When we provide repeated experiences of safe, seen and soothed in that predictable way—we get that fourth “s” which is secure. Their brains get wired to expect and know that ‘if I have a need, someone’s going to see it and show up for me.’ Then they expect it in other relationships- and they expect it in themselves. They show up for themselves. They can see themselves. They can soothe themselves. They can show up for themselves.
  • Help the other person to feel safe, seen and soothed, is the north star. Respond in a way that your child feels safe, seen and soothed.
  • Find ways to make sure you find other people who show up for you.

From the Blog of Dr. Robyn Silverman: https://drrobynsilverman.com/how-to-show-up-for-our-children-with-tina-payne-bryson-phd/